Are You a Fun Mom??

    

Can I be brutally honest?  Well, of course I can…it is my blog after all.  I’ve been surfing the internet a good bit here lately; you know just checkin’ out the scene.  Well, I keep seeing all these posts (esp. on pinterest) on How to be a fun mom.  Seriously?!?  The first time I came across one I didn’t even think about it.  The second and third times I was like, “hmmm…a fun mom…sure, I’m fun.  I don’t need to read it.”  But then I kept on seeing these things, and it hit me.  “Who Cares!!”  That’s actually what I said aloud.  Who cares if you are fun?!  And who defines what makes you a ‘fun mom’?  I get that we are all women, moms, girls at heart who just want to be loved.  Right??  We want people to like us.  We want our families to be pleased with us and think highly of us.  We want our kids to think we’re fun; and when they are teenagers, we want them to think we’re cool.  I mean, we’re only human.  But get real!  Don’t fall for that load of bologna!  God calls us moms for so much more than just being a ‘fun mom’.  He calls us to grow our children, to train them in His ways, to be good and productive citizens, and even more productive Christians.  He doesn’t call us to be fun.  Being fun and having fun is a plus, a reward, an extra, a privilege.  It is not and never should be our goal in raising our children.  The internet and social media is great for connecting to others and full of amazing resources and ideas.  However, some things you run across will bog you down and make you feel like a failure.  That may sound a tad bit harsh, but it is 100% true if you’re honest with yourself.  The way I see it is if you’re trying to be a ‘fun mom’, that means you’re allowing your children to lead you and judge you based on your fun-ability.  Kids are not designed to be leading the parents.  We see way too much of that in today’s society.  A mom’s job is to love and care for her children.  To teach her children to love, respect, and serve Christ.  Her job is to educate her children as much as possible.  Then, when the work is finished there is always time to put on the “fun mom hat” for a little while.

If you asked me if I thought I was a ‘fun mom’, I would say no.  I am a mom first.  Then a teacher to my child.  Once those jobs are under control and the business is handled, I love to have fun with my daughter.  But never will I define myself as a ‘fun mom’.  You may not agree with me, and you very well my view this topic from the other side of the spectrum, which I think is great and totally respect.  But I think this is a side that needs to be addressed.  When I see articles and postings entitled “How To Be A Fun Mom”, I feel disappointed and degraded.  It feels like some people out there have chalked our jobs, as moms, up to just being fun.  As if that is all that matters.  As if that is the one, true importance in mothering.  As if we are meant for nothing more.

 

Bernard and Christmas Blessings Update

Sorry I’ve been out so long!  We got bogged down in Christmas events and two days before Christmas I was down and out with a nasty bug.  But I’m certainly glad to be back!

To finish up my Christmas Blessings for my hubby, he got a Sonic gift card, new underwear (a special athletic pair that he loves, but that cost like $10 a pair), the movie Fly Wheel for another at home movie date night, and a coupon booklet (made by me).  He really enjoyed all of his gifts.

Sassy loved her 12 Days of Christmas as well.  On Christmas Eve she opened her last present, which was a red mini-mouse nightgown, and a Christmas Veggie Tales DVD that we all watched before bed.  I will def. do that again next year!  My Sassy LOVES books!  Every night when she opened one up she was just as thrilled as the first night.

Okay, here is the last photo I took of Bernard this year.  He did many funny things, but I think this was Sassy’s favorite!

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I hope each and every one of you had a very Blessed and Merry Christmas!  I wish you each a fabulous New Year!  May 2013 be even better than 2012!

God Bless!

Christmas Blessings Day 5

Yesterday was Day 5 for my husband.  He opened up the movie Courageous for us to have an at home movie date night.  Neither of us have seen the movie, so it will make a great movie date for the both of us.

 

Here is what Bernard was doing this morning when we woke up:

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Christmas Blessings Days 2-4

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Day 2 and 3 gifts were just a little something for his desk at work.  Day 4 was a gift I knew he’d love.  He loves crosswords, and since he has some downtime at school everyday, I thought he could use it.

Merry Christmas!!

 

 

P.S. – Check out what we found Bernard doing one morning!

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CT Elementary School Shooting

I’m sure most of you have heard about the shooting that occurred a few hours ago at Sandy Hook Elementary School in New Town, CT.  My husband texted me telling me about the tragedy so I immediately put on the news and sat down.  Hearing what had happened brought tears to my eyes.  I don’t know a single person in the state of CT, but I am heart-broken for them.  I am especially heart-broken for the families of the victims, and the shooter’s family.  This was a K-4 elementary school where many very young, innocent lives were lost.

The shooter was a 24 year old, young man who was originally from New Jersey.  This young man went and shot one of his mother, in their home, before going to this school.  His mother worked at this school.  At the school he took 26 or more lives, mostly innocent babies.  They believe the class he took most of the shooting out on was a Kindergarten class.  This has not been confirmed yet, though.  When I heard this, I sat down and cried.  My baby is 5 and in Kindergarten.  It hit home way too close.  I can’t imagine facing those demons these parents have been faced with.  My little girl said a wonderful prayer for those families.  It is a shame parents can’t even feel safe sending their children to school these days.  It makes me all the more thankful that God has called, and allowed, our family to homeschool.  I just don’t know how I could go on living my day to day if faced with something like that.  It would only be by the grace of God that I would be able to get out of bed each morning.  As the shooting began it was stated that the intercom came on over the school for lock-down and all the children could hear was screaming.  Some were placed in ting closets, huddled up so that if the shooter came by he would have no reason for entering the room if no children seemed to be present.  Some were immediately ushered out into the hall to get out of the building.  As they were lined up on the wall they were told to close and cover their eyes, as to protect their innocent eyes from seeing all the horror that was going on around them.  One child witnessed the death of a first grade teacher.  Those children will never be the same.  I can’t help but think of the horror the teachers felt; the urgency to protect their babies.  As a former teacher, I can tell you that teachers love their kids.  They feel as if they are their own, and seek to love and protect them.  They will do anything in their power to protect them.  Over the years many teachers have given their lives to protect their students.  It is very courageous, but something no teacher should ever have to do.

Being a 25 year old in today’s society, I can’t help but wonder what in this 24 year old man’s life was so terrible that he had to kill a parent, innocent children and teachers, and possibly even himself.  What in his life was so terrible?  I have no idea!  All I know is that he didn’t have Christ.  No matter how terrible a situation may be, Christ can pull you from it and change your life.  He must have felt empty and without options in life.  I’m not sure what that feels like, but I can imagine it must be a very dark place.  I feel sad for him.  I feel sad for his family, who lost a child as well, and in such a very sad way.

To add to today’s sadness, it turns out in China a very similar mass killing occurred.  A man entered an elementary school and stabbed and killed 33 children.

It puzzles me as to why our society feels our nation is better off without God.  Events such as these are only of Satan.  How could our nation go through so many terrible events, so many mass murders, and not seek God?!  You can seek out as many gun laws you want.  In fact, you can ban all weapons, but it isn’t the answer for our society.  God is the answer.  Just because something is banned or illegal, doesn’t mean it will stop evil.  People will always find a way to commit evil acts.  The only way is to lead our society in a different way, down a different path.  Lead them to God!

Please be in prayer for these families.  Please be in prayer for our nation.