Letter B Week

I am proud to tell you that after our not so good day, the rest of our week has gone very well.  We got a lot done!

This week was letter B week!  We learned everything about the letter B, read our B book, learned sight words that begin with a b, did letter B dot art, reviewed our body parts, learned about biotic and abiotic, practiced writing numbers, reviewed our info about the American Flag, learned about people in authority, reviewed some shapes, and of course did a letter B craft!  We also had our character quality for the week: Be a Blessing [to others], and our memory verse: Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.  -James 1:9

Here is our letter B craft:

Bob Bumble Bee

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I hope everyone has a fabulous weekend!  We are headed to watch Daddy’s football game tonight!  Enjoy your Labor Day weekend!

God Bless!

 

 

 

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Attitude Adjustments

I have been warned that as a homeschooling family, there will be bad days.  Some will be slightly bad, others will be really bad, and some will be so bad you will shut it down for the day…maybe even the week.  Well, I’m hear to tell you those people ain’t lyin’!  Today was bad day in the Kees household.  We did survive our school hour, but not without a little time out to step away from the situation.  My daughter had a HUGE attitude today!  We had only been working on school stuff for about 10 minutes when I ordered her to the corner.  It was more to keep me from getting angry with her than it was to punish her.  Disrespect is something I do not put up with…and she knows this.  So, as she cried in the corner I explained the hows and whys, all why giving myself a chill pill.  Once we both calmed down a little more, I called her back over and asked her what was bothering her, and why she felt the need to act in such a manner.  Turns out she was in a crabby mood and quite cranky.  Reason…at 7am this morning she had a terrible dream that left her awake in tears, disturbing her quite slumber.  She had tried to go back to sleep,  but couldn’t so she stayed in bed and watched a movie for a while, before she got up.   I was glad to hear that she was able to understand why she was behaving so rudely, and that she shouldn’t have done what she had.  However, I had to explain to her that we all have bad days, and we all feel grumpy and tired, but we have to have self-control.  We can’t just go around treating people bad because we feel crummy.  I then explained to her that when I realize I’m in a not so nice mood, I take a little time to myself and talk to God about it, and ask him to help me get in a better mood.  She liked that idea.  So school went on just fine, and then lunch and outside, etc.  Nap time came, which I knew she needed, and it ran smoothly.  After nap she seemed to have a slightly better attitude.  However, I was slightly off in that judgement apparently.  She was still grumpy, but we worked around it…until…it all came to a head at 6pm.  I put on the news, and the child lost it with me!  I calmly told her that behavior was unacceptable and she needed to go to her room until she could work through it.  So off she went crying.  I could hear her sitting in her room just crying …and crying…and crying.  And it only got louder and more hysterical.  I honestly felt terrible for her, yet at the same time completely frustrated.  I had a brief moment where I began questioning myself as mom, and as teacher.  I couldn’t help but wonder what I could have done differently, and if I should even be homeschooling.  It was then that God quickly reminded me that I am never done working on myself in terms of parenting, but that I most assuredly should be homeschooling.  I was then reminded of the fact that there will be rough days in this journey.  And I am so thankful that my dear friend told me that.  Otherwise, I may have crumbled under such terrible thoughts that I was doing something I couldn’t.  Once my sweet girl finished crying, she emerged from her room and we talked again.  As I got up and went into the kitchen to check on dinner, she came to me and apologized for her behavior and admitted that she was wrong for it.  My heart melted.  I hugged her up and told her I forgave her and I love her.  I also told her how much it meant to me that she recognized that on her own, and took the initiative to come apologize and admit her failure.  That was my reassurance, yet again, that this choice is right for our family.  What a mighty God we serve!  I am happy to admit that attitudes here are much better, and we will all be going to bed happy.

I discovered a lesson for myself in all of this today.  Actually a few lessons.

  1. I am never perfect, and I need to always keep working on staying calm when it comes to parenting.
  2. I have bad attitude days too, but I don’t have a parent to bring it to my attention and correct me.  I have to watch myself, and always be cautious in how I act, treat others, and respond to different situations whether my attitude be great that day, or totally rotten.
  3. I was also reminded that even as a child of God, I mess up daily.  I am sinful.  I need God’s forgiveness each and every single day, without fail.

I am so thankful for the love and forgiveness of my Father!

 

Raising Girls [A MOPS Convention Workshop]

I told you to be on the look out for my post about my favorite 2012 MOPS Convention workshop: Raising Girls.  And here it finally it is!   The workshop was entitled, Raising Girls: What Our Daughters Need to Hear from Us.  The speaker was Alexandra Kuykendall, who was fabulous by the way!  This was my favorite workshop because this is an issue very near and dear to my heart.  Our world today has created such a contradicting, obscure, and crude representation of women and girls.  I’m going to try to keep my personal opinions out of this post as much as possible, because the cold, hard facts are very important, and I really want you to get that.  So I’m just going to give you the run down based on our handout and the notes I took.

Alexandra began the workshop by pointing out the different aspects of girls’ unique needs.  The first aspect discussed was the simple biology of what we know about girls and boys.  One major difference lies in their hormones.  Girls have more estrogen, which is the most influential hormone surging through their bodies, it is otherwise known as the “intimacy hormone”, and is actually acquired during the stage of infantile puberty which is 6 months to 30 months.  The second major difference is the brain difference in girls.  Studies show that brain development for females occurs from left to right.  This is important because we know that the left side of the brain is the language center of the brain.  This is why we women talk so much!  LOL!  No, really!  Studies have also shown that the first five years of a child’s life are the most crucial in terms of brain development.  Now, if you’ve ever taken and child psychology class you probably learned why this is, and exactly how it all works.  I won’t bore everyone with all those details, but it is very interesting and I do encourage you to do your research on it.  Anyhow, we also know that the brain of a female produces more serotonin and more oxytocin.   Girls also have a higher sensory intake.

Now, as we get into the next part on cultural influences, keep all that information in mind.  In today’s society, our little girls are a highly targeted market.  Females in general are.  None of this is by coincidence.  You see, these companies actually have some pretty smart people working for them, because they have done the research to know that that brand consciousness develops at 24 months old.  Yes, you’re two year old knows certain brands from others!  The are able to associate symbols, melodies, etc. with that brand.  You’re girls especially!  Bet you never thought that!  I know I didn’t!  As if all that weren’t a big enough battle, there are three little words Alexandra gave us: spoiled, sexy and six.  Our children are being marketed to by stores, brands, even television shows.  They are taught to be spoiled…because that’s what’s cool!  And at about the tender age of six, they are taught that they need to be sexy.  Dolls become sexier, the people they watch on t.v. channels, yes, even the kid channels are becoming sexier, and the clothes become sexier.  Once a little girl graduates out of the baby/toddler clothing section (usually at the age of six) the style of clothing changes greatly.  Everything you see is mini adult.  Children should not be encourage to dress like mini adults.  This is something that I noticed with my daughter.  She is five and now wearing a size six, but I have a very difficult time finding her clothing that is age appropriate.  The pants are all low rise, the shorts are too short, the skirts are too short, the shirts are too fitting, or have skulls on them.  I could go on and on!  We have to protect our daughters!  Be conscience in what you buy them.  Six is also an age where they start asking more questions about the things they see.  Answer only as much as they are asking.  Sometimes they are only looking for a very short, simple answer, but we tend to give them way to much information when they are asking questions that make us squirm a little.

The second part of our handout went into the idea of mom’s unique influence.  As moms, we are the perspective giver, we are our daughter’s number one influence, and we should want to be a good one.  It is okay to embrace the inner princess in your daughter without making her spoiled.  Celebrate the fact that she is a girl!  Help her discover her talents.  Let her try what she wants to try.  She will fail at times, and that is okay, and we moms have to teach our daughters that failure is okay.  We are all human, and we can not be perfect and good at everything.  Always, always, always point out her good qualities.  Praise her good qualities every chance you get.  You are molding her and building her self-esteem.  Another great point: encourage her relationship with dad.  Daddies are so important to the life of our girls, to their self-esteem, and their future.  If your daughter’s dad isn’t around, find someone who can be that father figure for her…a grandfather, an uncle, etc.  Encourage your husband to spend quality time with your daughter, help him set up special dates for just the two of them.  Encourage him to offer her prompt words of affirmation as much as possible.  Encourage physical touch between them…hugs, kisses, tickle games.  Let her know he loves and adores her.  Encourage dad to give special gifts to her at times.  Sometimes he may need a little help from you on this.  Pick up something you know she’s been wanting and give it to him to give to her.  Lastly, teach her the importance of serving her daddy because daddy does so much to serve her.  In my home, I often remind my daughter how daddy goes out and works very hard every day so that we can be home together and have all the wonderful things we have.  This is how I taught her to be responsible for her room and keep it up.  It is a way to show daddy that she appreciates him and what he does, and she appreciates all that she has because of him.  As moms, we also need to limit the media use in our homes.  Be aware of what is on television, the radio, the internet, and use those media moments as teachable moments every chance you get.  If you don’t think a show is age appropriate or content appropriate, don’t allow it.  Do not be afraid to say no!  Your kids…your daughters, especially, want boundaries.  It is the only way that we can teach them values, right and wrong, morals, etc.  Lastly, we need to always remind her of who God says she is.  She needs to know that you believe what you are telling her is true about you, too.  Boy, this was a hard one for me.  It hit me like a ton of bricks!  It was that day I had to let go of a lot!  If your daughter sees you always dieting and saying you’re fat, she will come to believe the same about herself.  You may tell her every single day that she is beautiful, but if she sees you, or hears you putting down something about yourself, she will (at some point) stop believing what you tell her, and start believing she has the same issues with herself as you have.  Ladies, that is powerful!!  We live in a world telling us everyday that we are not skinny enough, not tall enough, not blonde enough, not sexy enough, not pretty enough, not good enough!  And I’ve had about enough of it!  I’ve spent 25 years believing the lie, and this single message broke that belief for me.  I had always heard God made me in his image, he made me just how he wanted me, he loves me no matter what, etc., etc. etc.  But…I never truly believed I was pretty enough, good enough, etc.  Now I do!  I truly believe that about myself because I have a daughter that I truly do believe that about, and I want her to believe it about herself.

The last part of our workshop was a list of messages that your daughter needs to hear from you, mom.

  1. She is chosen and dearly loved. (Colossians 3:12)
  2. She is a citizen of heaven. (Philippians 3:20) – Teach her to follow God’s rules.
  3. She is Christ’s friend. (John 15:15) – Friends are human and will let you down, but Jesus is always there.
  4. She is forgiven. (Ephesians 1:8) – Model asking forgiveness & giving it.  Catch her doing well.  Focus on her relationship with Christ
  5. God looks at her inner beauty. (1 Peter 3:4) – Compliment her on things that are NOT physical.  Be proactive…figure out how to grow these qualities in her.
  6. She uniquely reflects the creator. (Genesis 1:27) – She will have your features, so teach her to love them.  If you are dieting, focus on health..not being on a diet.
  7. She has special gifts and talents. (Romans 12:8) – Offer role models with similar gifts.  Celebrate her uniqueness!  Don’t let different be bad!  Recognize your values, and if they match her gifts.
  8. She is responsible for her actions. (2 Corinthians 5:10) – Separate yourself from her.  God gave her free will.  Chores develop responsibility.  Have consequences for bad behavior.
  9. She is part of a family. (Ephesians 2:19) – Tell her the family needs her and she has responsibilities.  Serve together!
  10. She is a messenger of hope. (Mark 16:15) – …to those around her.  She is a gift!  Remind her words have power.  Offer do-overs.  Always check yourself, too.

 

I hope you get as much out of this information as I did.  This is just such an important topic, especially in today’s world.  I’m sorry if it isn’t the easiest read and overwhelms you with information, but I just wanted to get the facts to you.  You might consider re-reading it in a day or so to really get it all, or break it up over a few days, because it is a lot of information.  And I didn’t even include all the little ideas she gave to go along with some of the stuff.  Anyhow, thanks for reading!

God Bless!

The Hard & Honest Truth

I like to always be as open and honest about my life as I possibly can be.  Sometimes, that is really hard.  Mainly because I really enjoy having it all together!  I mean, who doesn’t!?  But the truth is, I don’t always have it all together, and I don’t always fully open up about things.  Today, is different.  Today I just really felt the need to be open and share what’s been on my heart and mind lately.

As a Christian, and follower of Christ, I typically am fully trusting on God.  I have a strong faith, and I know that he has a plan and a time for everything.  No matter how good, or how bad a situation may be, he is in control.  I know this!  I believe this!  I trust in this!  But I am a control-freak.  I do fail.  And sometimes I don’t fully put my trust in him.  One minute I do, but the next I get anxious and start wondering how I can control the situation, and wonder “what can I do to hurry this or that along”.  I’m a little ashamed to admit that to you.  I’m ashamed that I fall in some areas, and am (too) often weak in faith.  One of those times I find myself weak in faith…and patience, is when I think about the things I had planned for my life.  The biggest issue in that area is having children.  Yes, I’m only 25, but keep in mind I do have a 5 year old and have been married for 5 years.  I started early…a little earlier than I planned, but I still had a plan.  My plan had included 2 to 3 children by now.  But I don’t have those kids.  I have one.  I have one beautiful, amazing blessing that God gave to us.  I love her, and adore her, and am so very thankful for her…but, I want more.  My husband wants more.  My daughter wants more.  The hardest part of my failed plan, has been hearing the humble requests made by my sweet baby, to God, for brothers and sisters.  It breaks my heart.  I am use to having an answer for her questions, or at least being able to look one up.  When she asks about siblings, or when or why, all I can tell her is we have to be patient and talk to God about that, and in his time he will grant us his will.  I’m telling her to keep the faith and believe, yet there are days when I fail in that area.

Just the other day we took our lunch to the local park for a picnic and play time.  We found a nice picnic table in just the right spot.  As we sat eating our lunch, I couldn’t help but notice how empty that table felt with just the two of us.  There was definitely no lack of love or laughter between the two of us, but we seemed so small in comparison to all that empty space.  It was at that time my daughter mentioned how there was so much space left where other kids could sit, if there were any.  I said, “yup, maybe one day we will have enough to fill it up”.  She looked at me seriously and said, “I hope so!  I would really like it if we could have at least three brothers, and two sisters!  Then it would be even…three boys and three girls.  That would be fun!”  My heart hurt a little for her in that moment, because I was an only child for a long time, and I longed for brothers and sisters.  I agreed with her, that her idea sounded great, and that hopefully one day she would have siblings.

I never really even knew of infertility until I experienced it myself.  And it didn’t take me long to realize that so many other women have experienced that pain as well.  It is a pain that runs so deep that I would never wish it on my very worst enemy.  It affects the entire family, and even beyond.  Truth be told, sometimes it makes ya a little crazy.  It is time consuming and costly, and never fun.  It does however, give you more gratitude for the child or children you do have, and opens your eyes to the fact that children truly are a blessing from God.  I don’t know what God’s plan is for us.  I don’t know if we will end up adopting or having a multitude of our own children.  I don’t know that we will ever have another child.  What I do know, is that we will continue praying and as hard as it is for me, I will keep the faith.  I believe that God wants to bless us, all of us.  He blesses each of us daily.  What I don’t know is how or when he will choose to bless us with another child.  I haven’t found that place where I can say I’m okay with just having one, and I don’t know when I’ll get to that place.  I’ve wanted a house full of kids since I was a little girl, so that is a dream that will be very hard for me to let go of.  However, I work daily on desire to control the situation.  I remind myself daily that God is in control, and he can handle this…because I sure can’t.  Three years of trying has been trying, but my husband and I are committed to not stressing over it, and keeping faith that God will bless us again when He is ready.  Making that kind of commitment to one another has helped us immensely.  We have grown in our faith, in patience, in understanding, and in our relationship.  Now that, I believe, was def. part of God’s plan for us.  We may have never seen it coming, but I’m glad it did.  And it is because of my faith in God that I can rejoice with my family and friends who are being blessed with children.  I am not bitter, nor am I jealous.  I might think to myself now and then that I can’t wait for that to be again one day, but I can truly rejoice with them over their blessings.

This week my daughter is learning all about our five senses.  On my way home for work yesterday, I was thinking to myself about the project we were going to do when we got home.  We were going to go outside and do a five senses discovery project where she would list the senses, and then go out and find something for each one.  She would then write it, and draw it in her journal.  That lead me to begin thinking about our five senses and God.  God created us, and gave us these senses, yet we can’t see God, we can’t smell him, we can’t touch him, we can’t taste him, and we can’t [audibly] hear God.  Yet, we believe in him.  We have to have faith to believe him.  Then I thought for a moment, and realized that maybe we actually have six senses, but not everyone will discover that sixth sense because that sixth sense is faith.  I continued to think about all of that for a while (I won’t bore you with all my crazy thoughts..lol), and then began to think about the fact that sometimes not all of our five senses work properly, or maybe our ears get stopped up and we can’t hear very well, or we get a stuffy nose and can’t smell or taste things for a few days.  Well, sometimes our faith is like that…sometimes MY faith is like that; it is temporarily not functioning properly and I have to take the necessary steps to get it fully functioning again.  And that is exactly what God is wanting me to do with my faith in this situation.

Workin Mom/At Home Mom

I just had to share a friend’s post with y’all really quickly!  Go check out The Gunter Times, and read all about Danielle’s post on being a workin’ mama/stay at home mom.  Some moms are great at being working moms/wives, and some are great at being at home moms/wives.  Which are you?

Be sure to follow her blog…I promise you’ll love it!